“Write to me when you get home xxx ‘is a standard practice for women. Autopilot, ”wrote Mountain. “A woman should have gone home,” she added. The comments on this post have been heartbreaking. Women shared how this fear affected the way they do everyday tasks. It prompted women to also share their experiences on Twitter using the hastags #textmewhenyougethome and #ReclaimTheStreets to emphasize the need to address gender-based violence.
For all of my women out there, my friends, my co-workers, people I have met once, I will always say #textmewhenyougethome and I will always # go with you when you are alone. In memory of Sarah and all the women who lost to violence #SarahEverard, we have to do better.
– Cait Broadbent (@cait_broadbent) March 10, 2021
I’m a lot older than you think and my friends and I still text each other when we get home safely after our girls’ night. Age knows no bounds
– TpaTravelingChick (@trvlingchick), March 15, 2021
What’s mental about the phrase #textmewhenyougethome is that until now I’ve never realized that we don’t even have to say it, it’s just become a habit
– Daisy (@daaissss_) March 11, 2021
I am sitting here reading all of the # Textmewhenyougethome messages and this text is from a friend. It is that standard in our life. I have the address for the restaurant and we always share the locations anyway. It’s so ingrained in our lives. pic.twitter.com/rWawZ0HNPX
– Michelle Alberto (@sea_iego) March 15, 2021
The fact that I’ve been thinking about my escape route and whether I can walk in the shoes I’m in.
The fact that I was further harassed and even followed for not responding to cat calls.
The fact that I had a taxi driver turned off the GPS. #textmewhenyougethome
– Deposit (@bailsalbrt) March 13, 2021
I was 34 when my boyfriend text me #textmewhenyougethome after going to the theater but missing the last bus home on a Wednesday night. I wrote to him, “I’m three blocks from home, honey 😉 Good night”. A block later, a man tried to pull me into a car with two other men.
I got away
– Karin Eriksson (@ keriksson362) March 15, 2021
Yes, not all of them are men. But it is enough. I was taught to have strategies. Multiple risk assessments. Every woman I know has a story. I have a self-defense course. Did the boys’ school hold additional classes to avoid attacking women?
– Clare Martin (@clmarts) March 13, 2021
I remember giving a list of things to do in a certain order when I get home so I know my friends are safe and sound. We still end our days with #textmewhenyougethome and would be hectic if we didn’t hear anything. This is the world we live in.
– Mai Mahal (@booschu) March 11, 2021
Do men realize that women share their addresses – or the addresses of bars / parks / date locations – on WhatsApp to protect themselves? We also talk to our friends on the phone. “If you haven’t heard from me by 11 p.m., give me a call. If I don’t answer, call the police. “
– Victoria Richards (@nakedvix) March 10, 2021
There’s a reason all my friends say, “Write to me when you get home” and chase me when I forget, and there’s a reason I do the same to them. This fear is so inherent in our nature that we don’t even register it!
– Katie Packer (@katierpacker) March 10, 2021
Remember the number of times I’ve been told / told that other women will text me when you get home and the number of times I have to tell my daughters.
– Chloe Riddell (@chloe_geneva) March 11, 2021
“Write to me when you get home safely,” I tell women I know before we part, and I never thought about it. If I actually say that I am worried that something terrible might happen to them and I won’t stop worrying until I know they are safe. It shouldn’t be like that.
– Miriam Brett (@MiriamBrett) March 10, 2021
Not all are men, but every woman has a similar story, or a story from a friend, family member, or acquittal. According to a report published by UN Women, 97% of women between the ages of 18 and 24 in the UK were sexually molested, 96% of whom did not report any incidents. In the USA a report Following the #MeToo movement, it was found that more than 77% of women had experienced verbal sexual harassment, while at least 51% had been sexually touched without their permission. In addition, about 41% said they had been sexually harassed online and 27% said they had survived sexual assault.
Sarah Everard was just trying to go home. Her story sheds light on the fear women all over the world live in on a daily basis. It reminds us that we need to make our society safer for everyone. Gender-based violence does not end until people acknowledge the statistics and take action. Yes, it’s not just men, but women shouldn’t be instructed to go out with a male friend in order to feel safe. Sexual assault is not just committed by strangers: two out of three sexual assaults are committed by someone the victim knows. In addition, 38% of rapists are seen by the victim as a friend or acquaintance.
Violence against women is a widespread phenomenon and a human rights violation. Walking with a man next to you is not the solution. We need to find ways to make society safer for all, regardless of race, gender, identity or sexual orientation. “Write to me when you get home” shouldn’t be a habit you say out of fear for the safety of your friends and loved ones.